Hey Guys,

Here is a girl who tells that she fell in love with two guys and now don't want to leave anyone.SHe is honest,that I can tell you.
But the 1st BF broke up with her since he came to know abt this.In the mean time the 2nd guy & she came very close with each other.Now the 1st BF came back and doing all kind of emotional blackmailing.Actuallly they both are kinda emotional fool.She is telling that she will break up with both of them but still can't stop talking to the 1st BF.Again falling for him.I am the 2nd BF.

I am completely clueless about my approach now.I know she has been honest to me by sharing everything even abt his bf things.
But what hurts me is she is not going to anyone end of the day.I am ready for her but she is now telling that if she will come to me then her st BF will feel bad and may harm himself.And she can't go to her 1st BF as I will feel bad.So she won't marry anyone.

Any Idea what should be done?

Hi Sweetsomu,

It wud hv been better if u hv mentioned ur girl friend's age. Becoz I feel she is very immatured. She is not stable and she is not sure wat she wants. I feel she should not make a decision just becoz someone is blackmailing or that someone wud feel bad. First let her decide the correct choice for herself leaving the other things apart. Problems can be handled later with calm and patience.

Also I personlly feel that if a guy tries to blackmail, she shd never accept that person as these sort of people wud create problems throughout and cant be trusted.

Well...She is 23.Blackmailing is a wrong word actually.But what her 1st BF is doing is showing all kind of pain he under went during these period.This girl is too much caring and it's working as a emotional blackmailing in other way as she is feeling that all these happened b'coz of her only.The 1st BF is very possessive abt her but I feel it has become obsession for him now. She is not able to get out of his tragic words and feeling that he may do something wrong to himself if she directly stops the talking to him.

The same thing happened to me

in the given case of somu i m suffering from that bad things.

i was in relation ship with a sweet girl, we both like each other company and very close to each other.

but someday i found that she is interested in other guy so i asked her abt that guy. she replied very roudly to me " that none of ur business".

plz help me wat to do because i cant live without her i m very passionate abt her...

Hey velmont, i know this would be really painful. The best way to attract her is to just ignore. Try ignoring her for a couple of days and see if something works out. when she starts missing u, she herself will get back to u. Also just check if there are any drawbacks in ur relationship which lead her turn towards someonelse. may be u can work towards it. best of luck.