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let me tell u in urdu.

mere umar hain 27 and maine 2 saal pehly shadhi keya tha ek ladky ke sath jiska bachy thay ek wife. abi mere halat buhut kharab hain eske sath hamisha ladayee karty hain mere husband jo hain anpad hain maine khud taaleem keya hain computer main diploma keya hain . i dont know what to do should i leave him or not? he wants me to save his children and chahta hain ke main wsky bachy sambhalo padawo lehkawo mere bachy bi nahi hoty hain infact i dont beleive in these things log kehty hain ke jaadoo keya hain and now i dont know dil toot gaya hain.... kuch nahi hain mere app batwo mian kya karu? MAIN RUSSIA GAYEE HAR JAGA gayee ke kahi zindagee banawo leken nahi hosaka wapas agye eske sath ab batwo app log ke main chor du ya aise halat main rahu.?
am from kabul and he is from peshawar
so plz plz tell me what to do am really helpless...


Sun Sep 23, 2007 12:31 pm
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I guess the question I have is, do you care for him or his children? It doesn't matter that he's not educated as long as he's intelligent and understanding or at least some sense :) As for having more children, do you think its a good idea to have a child, when you yourself don't know what to do? Before I give into 'jaadoo, etc.' I would consider a medical reason for not being able to have any children with you and/or your husband. I don't know whats at the root of fights, do you? You will need to think long and hard, you sound like a reasonable person. Was this marriage of your choosing? Its difficult to offer an opinion---I wouldn't condone a divorce, without giving the situation a serious, serious consideration over a long haul. Every life has its ups and downs, wish you well with your decision---
On the lighter side, it wouldn't be me, without one :)
I read or heard somewhere that---Men are alike in 99% of the ways!!! Now I don't know if its true or not, but I've heard women utter more than once, and in exasperation that "ALL MEN ARE ALIKE!!!" Don't take life so seriously, its shorter than you think, of course its easier to say that when life is easy. One thing you could do is perhaps write out, what you think will make you happy, the idea being just to kind of get a feel for knowing yourself and what you want, what are your principles, etc.--- I do not envy you, but it can be good in a way that it'll force you to do some soul searching, dont' you think? It is my sincerest wish that you come out of this a stronger and happier person.


Sun Sep 23, 2007 8:12 pm
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So sorry to hear your problem........

Sounds like he is taking advantage of you and you really love him.
Only you can decide if you want to live in this situation for rest of your life.
If you dont want to take care of his kids then tell him, have some guts.

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